七大自我奋斗定律还你一个完美人生1.DesireThisisalmostalwaysinthestandardself-helpliterature.Ifyouwanttoachieve“it,”youhavetoreallywantit.Moreimportantly,withveryfewexceptionsyoumustbeconsciousofthefactthatyouwantitandyoumustbeveryclearaboutwhatitis.Whenitwillhappen,whatitwilllooklike…yougetthepicture.1.理想有关自我奋斗的各种论说中，该原则几乎总是位居榜首。欲取之，必先欲之。更重要的是，大多情况下，你必须确信自己有此理想，而且必须清楚是何理想，何时产生，有何特性等，你要能描绘出来。2.AuthenticityWhilemostself-helpliteratureisaboutchange–changingyourlife,becomingadifferentperson–itisalmostalwaysrootedinthenotionthatyouhaveto“knowyourself”(orknowthyself,dependingonhowfarbackyougo)andbeyourselfifyouwanttosucceedandbehappyinyoursuccess.Makesurethe“it”thatyoudesirealignswithwhoyoutrulyare.2.真我虽然大多数有关自我奋斗的论说都在讲改变——改变你的一生，做个全新的人等，但几乎都植根于一个理念：如果你想成功并快乐着，你就要“了解自己”（或者说了解本我，这要看你对自己了解有多深），并且要坚持做你自己。记住，你的理想和你的真我相辅相成，并行不悖。3.DriveAstheoldsayinggoes,“Ifwisheswerehorses,beggarscouldride.”Itisonethingtowantsomething;itisanotherthingentirelytohavethewilltogetit.Motivationplaysastarringroleinself-helpliterature,andforgoodreason:veryfewofuscomeequippedwithself-sustainingwillpower.Closelyrelatedconceptslikebeing“pro-active”andpersistentcomeintoplayhere.3.动力古谚有云：“理想若是马，乞丐都能骑。”有理想是一回事，有决心实现理想是另一回事。自我奋斗论中，动力是奋斗成功的主要因素，理由很充分：很少有人有足够的意志力。类似的概念还有积极向上、持之以恒等。4.DisciplineYoucanwantitandhavethewilltopursueit,butyoustillneedtocultivateandpracticeappropriate,consistenthabitsifyouexpecttosucceed.Itisimportanttorememberthat“discipline”derivesfromtheLatin“disciplina,”meaningteachingorlearning.Desireanddrivealonedonotadduptodiscipline.Itmustbelearned.4.自律你有理想，也下定决心追求理想，但你还需要培养于你有益的行为习惯，并持之以恒坚持下去，你才有可能获得成功。一定要记住，英文中“自律”（discipline）一词源于拉丁语词“disciplina”，意为自我教育，既有“教”，也有“学”。自律并非理想和动力的简单相加，必须依靠后天习得。5.ReflectionReflectionisarguablyoneofthekeyhabitsofdiscipline,butitalsoservestocounteractmindlessdiscipline.Inshort,itisanimportantenoughconceptinself-helpliteraturetostandonitsown.Achievingyourgoalsrequiresbeingconsciousandthoughtfulabouthowyouareperformingalongtheway.Doingsoenablesyoutoappreciateyourprogressandalso