如何应对家庭生活中的经济暴力？JeanChatzky:HowtodealwiththefinancialbullyinyourlifeWeallknowthatcouplesfightaboutmoney.Infact,asmanyfightsaredebt-centric,theholidaysarehighseasonforknockdowndragoutfinancialbrawls.众所周知，夫妻之间经常因为经济问题发生争吵。事实上，许多人争吵的核心问题都与债务有关，而节日季更是经济问题导致争吵的高发期。Butthefactthatonein10marriedfolksthinkstheirspouseisafinancialbully?Thatheadline,fromarecentCreditKarma.comsurvey,wasnewstome—whichmakesmethinkit'llbenewstoyou,too(I'vebeencoveringthisworldfor20years.)信用分查询网站CreditKarma.com近期一份调查的大标题称，事实上，每十对夫妻中就有一对认为家中存在“经济暴力”。这种说法对我而言很新鲜（我本人研究经济问题已经有20年之久）——而且我认为许多读者肯定也是第一次听说。Whatexactlyisfinanciallybullying?Whenwetalkaboutteenbullyingoronlinebullyingorworkplacebullying,it'swhenapersoninapositionofpowerintimidatesanotherpersontodowhattheywant.Financialbullyingisverymuchthesame,saysRelationshipTherapistArgieJ.Allen,Ph.D.DirectorofClinicalTrainingatDrexelUniversity'sCoupleandFamilyTherapyDepartment."Financialbullyingisallaboutpowerandcontrol.Soonespousemightbeparticularlydictatorial–andintimidating--overhowtheotherhandlesmoney.It'salsoasignoftroubletocome."Thelessfinancialfreedomapersonhas,themorevulnerabletheyareintherelationship.到底什么是经济暴力？我们所说的青少年暴力、网络暴力或者职场暴力等，都是指拥有权力的一方，威胁其他人按自己的意愿去做事。德雷塞尔大学（DrexelUniversity）夫妻与家庭治疗系（CoupleandFamilyTherapyDepartment）的临床训练主任、关系治疗师阿吉•J•艾伦博士认为，经济暴力与其他暴力行为基本相同。“经济暴力的根源也是权力和控制。也就是说，夫妻一方对于对方如何花钱，态度上非常专横，令人惧怕。这也是夫妻关系即将出现问题的标志。”一个人的经济自由越少，在这种关系当中就越容易受到伤害。Beforewetakealookatthespecificbullyingbehaviors(CreditKarmaisolatedfive)andwhattodoaboutthem,let'sdispensewithsomepre-conceivednotions.Accordingtotheresearch,bullyingisanequalopportunityoffense.Justasmanymenfeelbulliedaswomen.It'sactuallymorecommonamongtheyoungermembersoftheMillennialandYgenerationsthanitisamongXersandBoomers.And,ithappensacrosstheeconomicspectrum.LisaHatcher,afinancialplannerinRichmond,VAwhohaswrittenonthesubject,sayssheseesitamongsix-figureearnersaswellaspeoplewhoearnsubstantiallyless.我们在研究这些具体的暴力行为（CreditKarma将经济暴力行为分成了五种）和应对方法之前，首先要抛弃一些先入为主的观念。据CreditKarma网站的调查显示，经济暴力现象