BBCLEARNINGENGLISHTakeAwayEnglish随身英语What’sanarcissistlike?自恋者是什么样的人？Vocabulary:personalities词汇:性格Ittakesallsortstomakeaworld–sosomesay.Nobodyisthesame,andourdifferentpersonalitiesandcharactertraitsmakeuswhatweare.Wouldn’titbeboringifwewereallthesame?Butifsomeonedoesn’tbehaveorthinklikeyou,itcanbefrustrating.Andthere’sonepersonalitytypethatcanbeverydifficulttodealwith-narcissism.Narcissistsconsiderthemselvesthemostimportantperson.They’reonlyinterestedintheirownlife,withoutacareintheworldaboutthepeoplearoundthem.Theirlackofempathymakesthemcomeacrossasarrogantandself-important.Ifyouknowsomeonelikethis,theirnarcissisticattitudesmightirritateyou.Butyoumightfinditevenmoreirritatingtoknowthat,accordingtonewresearch,theyarelikelytobehappierthanotherpeople.AnongoingstudyofnarcissismbyresearchersatQueen'sUniversityBelfasthasfoundsuchpeoplemightinfuriateothersbutarelesslikelytobestressedordepressed.Writingabouttheresearch,theBBC’sSeanCoughlansays“Theymighthavetrampledoverothersandleftatrailofemotionaldamagearoundthem-butnarcissistsalsoseemtobeinsulatedagainstfeelingbadaboutthemselves.”Andtheirheightenedsenseofself-importanceappearstogivethem"protective"qualities.Researchershavebeentryingtounderstandwhynarcissismappearstobemoreprevalentinareassuchaspolitics,socialmediaandcelebritycultureandwhynarcissists'shameless,over-confidentattitudeseemstoberewardedratherthanpenalised.Itdoesseemthattheyhavethebestofallworlds,whichisnotgreatnewsforshrinkingviolets.Andthere’smorebadnewsforthosewhoareshyandretiring:previousresearchbyQueen’sUniversityhasalsofoundthata‘mentaltoughness’helpsnarcissistssucceedatworkandintheirsociallivesbecausetheycanovercomerejectionanddisappointment.Andothertestshavefoundthatnarcissisticstudentsdobetterinexams,notbecausetheyaremoreclever,butbecauseoftheirconfidenceandassertiveness.ButpsychologistDrKostasPapageorgioufromtheresearchteamarguesthatthesepersonalitytraitsshouldnotbeseenas"eithergoodorbad"butas"productsofevolution