潘丹丹20104074ItIsHarmfulfortheGrowthofChildrenthatTheirParentsTeachThemNottoTrustAnyStrangerRecentyearshavefrequentlywitnessedtheoccurrenceofheartbrokenincidentslike“XiaoYueyueAccident”and“PengYuCase”,underwhichcircumstancepeopledeliberatelychoosetouseso-calledindifferenttacticstoself-protect,parentsfollowingsuit.Theynotonlythemselvesgrudgetheirtrusttowardsothers,butalsoteachtheirchildrennottrustanystranger.Undoubtedly,itdoesprofoundharmtochildren’sgrowthintermsofpersonalityandinterpersonalrelationship,abilitytodistinguishfromgoodtobad,tosomeextent,evengivesrisetotrustcrisis.Inthefirstplace,childrenwillbecomeisolatedwithouttrusttowardsanystrangerduringthepersonality-shapingperiod,thusalienatingclustersoffriends.Asweallknow,ourunderstanding,ideology,valuestowardscosmosandworldareforgedwhenweareyoung.Inthelightofthisstatement,thereisnodoubtthatparents’suchteachingmethodwilldoharmtochildren’spersonality.Letmeputthisstraight,evenfriendsstemfromstrangerswhilechildrenbeartheideaofnottrustinganystranger,whichmeanstheywillbecomelonelyandisolated,andinevitablyalienateenormousfriends.Inthesecondplace,nottrustanystrangerwillmakechildrenlackabilitytodistinguishfromgoodtobad,whichhamperstheirgrowthdeeply.Initially,parentsteachtheirchildreninthiswayjustinthehopeofprotectingtheirchildrenfromcheatandhurt,whichturnsouttohurtthemmoredeeply,becausechildrencan’tchoosewhatpeopletodealwithandtheywillneverhavethechancetolearntheabilitytodistinguishfromgoodtobad.Asthefamoussayinggoes,”afallinpit,againinwit”.Whatapityitisthatchildrencannevergothroughsomeobstacleswhichhelpthemgrowup,thustheyturnouttobe“fragileflowers”.Parentsteachinginthiswayunderthepretextofprotectionissimilartoadoctorwhocuthispatient’shandbecauseofasmallwoundinthefinger.Actually,patientcantakepainkillers,whileparentscanalsoteachchildrensomeskillstodealwithpeoplewhointentionallyhurtthem.Itreallyimpelsthegrowthofchildren.Lastbutnotleast,suchblindandmisleadingteachingwillhindertheprogressofsocietyandgiverisetotrustcrisis