01:15TheMiseryofShyness羞怯的痛苦HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"BettySobelandLorraineC.Smith[1]HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Shynessisthecauseofmuchunhappinessforagreatmanypeople.对许多人来说，羞怯是很多不愉快的起因。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Allkindsofpeopledescribethemselvesas[N]shy:short,tall,dull,intelligent,young,old,slim,overweight.各种各样的人——矮的、高的、愚笨的、聪明的、年轻的、年老的、瘦的、胖的——都说自己是羞怯的。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Shypeopleareanxiousandself-conscious[N];thatis,theyareexcessivelyconcernedwiththeirownappearanceandactions.羞怯的人会焦虑不安，感到不自然；也就是说，他们过分地关注自己的外表和举止。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Worrisomethoughtsareconstantlyswirlingintheirminds:WhatkindofimpressionamImaking?Dotheylikeme?DoIsoundstupid?I'mugly.I'mwearingunattractiveclothes.脑海中不断盘旋着一些使自己不安的想法：我给人留下的是什么印象？他们喜欢我吗？我讲话是不是傻里傻气？我长得难看。我穿的衣服毫不引人注目。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"[2]Itisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadversely.很显然这种不安的感觉会对人产生不利的影响。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Aperson'sself-conceptisreflectedinthewayheorshebehaves,andthewayapersonbehavesaffectsotherpeople'sreactions.一个人的自我看法反映在自己的行为方式之中，而一个人的行为方式又影响他人的反应。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Ingeneral,thewaypeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.通常，人们如何看待自己对他们生活的各个方面都会产生深刻的影响。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Forinstance,peoplewhohaveapositivesenseofself-worthorhighself-esteemusuallyactwithconfidence.例如，具有积极的自我价值观或很强自尊心的人往往表现出自信。HYPERLINK"file:///G:\\book1\\unit1\\Reading\\Reading.htm?hdmultiply=1"\l"null#null"Becausetheyhaveself-assuranc