洛基英语HYPERLINK"http://www.englishvip.com/wenkxd.htm"www.englishvip.com/wenkxd.htm大学英语自学教程(上册)unit14友善及礼貌的重要性14-A.TheImportanceofBeingKindandPolite"Frankly,Ithinkyou’reboring.”Whydoweseldomhearpeoplespeaksohonestly?Unlessyouwanttoendarelationship,youdon'ttellanotherpersonwhatyouthinkofherorhimlikethis.Failingtobeimpressedbyafriend'scollectionofstamps,yawningwhenagolfertellsyouaboutthatgreatshuthemadeonthe14thhole,orfallingasleepwhenfriendsshowpicturesfromtheirlasttriptoSaultSte.Marieareallthingsthateducatedpeopletrynottodo.Thisiswhatmannersareabout:actinginacivilizedwaytoavoidmisunderstanding,friction,andconflict.Therearenolawsenforcingrespect.Yetwecannotinteractwithotherswithoutsomerulesofbehavior,rulesthataresetbysomeformofsocialconsensus.Theseguidelinesrepresentwhatamajorityofpeopleconsideracceptableandwhattheyconsiderunacceptable.Rudepeoplearethosewhosebehaviorshowslittlerespectfortherulesthatthemajorityfollow.Forinstance,becausetheytalkathomewhilethetelevisionison,manypeoplethinktheycantalkatmoviesaswell.Theyarenotevenawarethatthishabitwillbothertheothermembersoftheaudience.Restaurantshavesmokingandnon-smokingsections,andmostsmokersarepoliteenoughtoask,"DoyoumindifIsmoke?"beforelightingup.Restaurantsshouldalsohavecellular-phoneandno-cellular-phonesections.Anewclassofrudepeoplehasbeenborn:thelook-at-mephoneuserswhoseboringconversationsarejustasdangeroustoourmentalhealthassmokeistoourlungs.Sometimes,itisbettertoremainunknownthantomakepimplehateyou.Therearemanychildrenandadolescentswhosebehaviorisgenerallyunacceptable.Theyswearnomatterwhoisaroundthem,theylistentotheirWalkmanswhiletheteacheristalkingtothem.Indifferentparentswhorefusetodisciplinetheirchildrenarenothelpingthem.Kidswhohavenoideawhatbeingpolitemeanswillpaythepricesoonerorlater.Whentheyjointheworkforce,theiremployersandassociatesalikewillsoonrealizethatthebehavioroftheserudeyoungpeopleisclosertothatofanimalsthancivilizedindividuals.Whentheyloseafewcontractsbecausetheytalkwiththeirmouthfull,o